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TempoA members' letter and pelvic-floor app for men past 40
Desire, the bedroom, and six quiet minutes a day
You still want her. You want to feel wanted, and sure of yourself when the door closes. Past 40, many men notice the drive is quieter, sleep gets broken by trips to the bathroom, and the gym or the workday asks more than it used to.
I built Tempo for that man, with very little time to spare. One deep-dive a week, an archive you can search, quick tips, and pelvic-floor routines done lying down, seated or standing, in a few minutes.
Anders Vale, founder of Tempo
Works on any phone
4–8 minroutine a day
Weeklydeep-dive letter
Archiveand quick tips
21:40Tempo
Tonight
6 minutes
Slow breath, belly soft 1 min
Lying hold, knees bent 2 min
Bridge, pause at the top 2 min
Deep squat, hips open 1 min
This week's deep-divePace, closeness and the slow evening9 min read
TodayLetterArchiveTips
Three ways to spend the same few minutes
Most men who write to me have tried one of the first two. I compare them here by what they ask of your day, and by how private they are.
Minutes a routine takes from your day
A class across townaround 75 min with travel
On your ownvaries, mostly searching
Tempo4 to 8 min, where you are
AloneUsual waysTempo
Where you begin
AloneA search bar and a dozen open tabs
UsualA gym class, a forum thread, an hour-long video
TempoOne short routine waiting on your phone
The positions
AloneGuesswork from diagrams
UsualShown once, rarely revisited
TempoLying, seated, standing, bridge and deep squat, written plainly
Intimacy and the bedroom
AloneSeldom put into words
UsualJoked past, or skipped
TempoA standing subject: positions for closeness, comfort and pace
What you read
AloneScattered articles of unknown origin
UsualLong courses you never finish
TempoOne deep-dive a week, a searchable archive, quick tips
Who sees it
AloneYour browser history
UsualA room of strangers
TempoYour phone, behind your own login
The seated routine needs nothing more than a seat on the way home.
I kept Tempo short on purpose. The men I write for have work, children and a partner waiting. A few minutes is the whole ask.
Anders Vale
The membership, in three lengths
Every plan holds the same letter, archive, tips and routines. Only the length differs.
The weekly deep-diveOne subject, written in full, around ten minutes to read
The archiveEvery past edition, searchable by position or subject
Quick tipsShort notes for the queue, the desk or the kettle
The daily routinePelvic floor, breath, hips and core in 4 to 8 minutes
You pay one intro amount today, set by the row you select: $11.99 for One month, $31.99 for Three months or $55.99 for Six months. When that first period closes, Tempo renews automatically at the regular price for the same length: $14.99 a month, $39.99 every three months or $69.99 every six months. Cancel at any moment in the app's settings, or by contacting us — [email protected]
Five positions and where they fit in your day
The pelvic-floor routine is built on five positions. I compare them by the places a busy man already passes through, so the minutes find you rather than the other way round.
Five positions, one path through them.
Lying down
On your back, knees bent, feet flat. Draw the pelvic floor up and in, hold for five counts, let go for five.
BedFloor
Seated
Toward the front of the chair, feet planted, hands on your thighs. Quiet enough for a meeting.
DeskCarTrain
Standing
Feet under the hips, knees soft, one hand on the counter. The kettle gives you just enough time.
KitchenQueue
Bridge
Lift the hips slowly, hold the floor engaged at the top, lower over four counts.
FloorBed
Deep squat
Heels down, chest tall, a doorframe for balance. Breathe low, hold, release.
FloorDoorway
Alongside the pelvic work
Hip mobilitySlow openers in the squat and on the floor, one minute
BreathingLow, through the nose, counted in and out
CoreQuiet holds that pair with the pelvic floor, no equipment
With her: closeness, comfort, pace
Intimacy is a regular subject in the letter, written for adults and in plain words. I compare positions for the two of you the same way I compare the exercises.
Late evening, the hour most members read the letter.
PositionComfortClosenessPace
Spooning
Lying close, both at rest. Easy on the back and knees, easy to talk.
Slow
Seated embrace
On the edge of the bed, at eye level, arms around each other.
Unhurried
Her above
She sets the pace. You stay still, close, and attentive to her.
Hers
A page from the archive, unedited
Edition 23, as members received it. This is the sample I would show a friend before he paid for anything.
12:15Archive
Edition 23
The chair you already sit in
8 min read, seated position
Most men who write to me sit for much of the day. A desk, a car, a train. So this week I begin where you already are.
Sit toward the front of the chair, feet flat and hip-width apart, hands resting on your thighs. Let the belly soften. Breathe in through the nose for four counts.
On the out-breath, draw the pelvic floor gently up and in, as if stopping yourself mid-stream, and hold for five counts. Let go completely for five. Ten rounds take about three minutes.
Nobody across the desk can tell. That is the reason I like this position.
Quick tip
Lost count? Begin the round again. Slow and complete is the version I teach.
Every edition stays in the archive, searchable by position or subject.
Begin this evening, if you like
Three lengths, the same membership. The big number is what it comes to per day.
You pay one intro amount today, set by the row you select: $11.99 for One month, $31.99 for Three months or $55.99 for Six months. When that first period closes, Tempo renews automatically at the regular price for the same length: $14.99 a month, $39.99 every three months or $69.99 every six months. Cancel at any moment in the app's settings, or by contacting us — [email protected]
What men write to me first
How many minutes does Tempo ask for?
The daily routine runs four to eight minutes. The weekly deep-dive is a ten-minute read, whenever it suits you. A quick tip takes less than a minute.
What if it turns out not to be for me?
Write to me within 21 days of paying and I refund the whole amount. One short message is enough; you owe me no reason.
How do renewal and cancelling work?
Your plan renews at the regular price for the same length. Cancel from the app's settings at any moment, or write to me, and nothing further is charged.
